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Month: April 2011

How to Invite More Possibility and Synchronicity in Your Life

How to Invite More Possibility and Synchronicity in Your Life

Tweet {flickr photo by: steve9567} Spring is Here and So is Hope Things feel like they are finally falling into place. The storm has settled and every fallen leaf and flower have been stored, tucked neatly away. In my life, I’ve been seeing synchronicities left […]

Should You Count Your Lucky Stars or Work Hard to Achieve Success?

Should You Count Your Lucky Stars or Work Hard to Achieve Success?

Tweet {flickr photo by: fearthekumquat} How Important is Luck in Success Social media expert and writer friend Danielle McGaw posted a seemingly benign, but surprisingly provocative topic in her post Don’t Call Me Lucky. Is luck a factor in success? She didn’t think so and […]

The Dangers of Looking Back

The Dangers of Looking Back

I’m going to ask you a question. And I want you to be as honest as you can.

How much time do you spend looking in the rearview mirror?

Not in your car. But in your life.

Here’s a confession: Lately, I’ve been noticing how much time I spend looking back in my rearview mirror. {This time I’m talking about my car.}

  • Have you ever, for example, drove passed an accident then looked in your mirror to see what’s about to happen next?
  • Or did you ever pause for a sec and turn back to see if that car was really honking at you?

Okay. Maybe it’s just me. But I realized that all that looking back was putting my present life in risk, literally and figuratively.

Then, I saw Oprah’s Master Class Part 2 and heard her talking about what it was like starting a talk show during the talk show craze. And how she decided that instead of looking back at all the new and old hosts who were gaining speed behind her, that she would focus up ahead.

Focusing On Your Success

Just like it’s probably not a good idea to stare at the rear view mirror when driving, it’s also not a good idea to focus on your competition. Oprah said that if she had turned around and paused to look, she might have been distracted by all of the hosts at her heels.

Instead of comparing herself to the competition, she focused on taking her business to the next level. Every time word got out of how Ricki Lake was starting or Sally Jessy Raphael was rising to fame, she worked that much harder, stepping up her game at each production.

This is what we need to do in order to be successful.

Stop turning back to see what other’s are doing. Stop comparing yourself to your competition. Stop analyzing what you did wrong in every situation.

Instead, focus on what more you can do to make your business stand out.

Focus on the present. Focus on what you are doing now that’s working or not working. The more time you spend on your business, the more success you will have.

Focus on what’s not working and make it better. Last year, my querying efforts paid off and I had several publications back to back. This year, I was burnt out and felt I needed to do something different. I took a weekend boot camp and found the information refreshing and I immediately started to get assignments again. Sometimes all you need is to refocus your efforts and find a new perspective. Take a class. Start a group of like-minded folks. Talk to others about what you might need to do to start getting the business you deserve.

It’s in you.

Just stop looking backwards.

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Why Failure is a Good Thing

Why Failure is a Good Thing

Tweet {flickr photo by: ??zeiss66super} Failure Isn’t an Option These days I keep hearing people say that, “failure isn’t an option for me.” They must be talking about permanent failure as in “I quit” versus temporary failure. Because in the world of pursuing one’s dreams, […]

Using Envy to Propel Your Life Forward

Using Envy to Propel Your Life Forward

Tweet {flickr photo Sudachi} Something wonderful happened today. I listened as a friend took fear and rose above it, soaring into the wind of success. As I watched from below and admired her beautiful, new wings, I thought about how high up she was and […]

Redefining What’s Broken

Redefining What’s Broken

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Holding On

I have been holding on to one earring.

“Why?” you ask.

Because I love it. Because it was my all-time favorite pair and then I went and lost one side. But unlike other lonely singles that I had donated or tossed in the trash, I couldn’t bare to part with this one. So for months, it sat in my little jewelry bowl sitting by its lonesome.

That is, until the day I finally decided to do something about it. It was much too pretty to be thrown away. And although it was sort of broken without its mate, I decided it was worthy to be displayed again.

After much haggling with it, I turned it into a necklace*.

*Stay tuned for an update on how I DIM (did-it-myself).


The process was simple. But it got me thinking about our own broken pieces. And how quick we are to toss them aside, hide them or throw them away.

There is a joy in displaying your broken jewels. Wear them like a badge of honor. Mix them up, find a new angle, learn to take what feels broken and turn them into what makes you strong.

I watched Oprah teacher her Masters Class on OWN the other day and was moved by her words. Years of abuse, abandonment, and a loss of a baby did not destroy her. She was able to transform her feelings of being unworthy into teaching others how to find their own self-worth.

Your Journey

I don’t know what you are going through right now. Only you know that. But I believe that whatever your circumstances, they are there to prepare you for what’s still to come.

Like the chick who has to grow wings before he can fly or the pony that must fall before he can stand, we must all experience our brokenness to understand what it means to be whole.

Keep walking the journey, dear friend. Because you will get there. Pick up your broken pieces and save them. Hold them to your heart. For one day, you will want to treasure them as a symbol of that courageous journey, as a moment that changed you forever.

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