I want to ask you a question. It’s a personal one.
How well do you treat your postman? How kind are you to your dentist? Is it just me or do you squander an unnecessary amount of time rehearsing the thing you’ll say to your boss or your doctor so that you come across as curious not confrontational?
Then, did you come home and bark at your partner? Did you snap at your kids?
A few hours later when the house is quiet, did you do the worst transgression to yourself?
Maybe you weren’t conscious of it, but you ate the whole bag of dark chocolate almonds. Dark chocolate + almonds seem pretty healthy so it’s not that bad. But then when the sugar wore off you felt the effects and the slow burn of criticisms flooded your head. You drowned yourself with images of the way you were cruel to your husband, and the fear on your children’s face.
I’ve had many experiences like this and it taught me one shocking truth.
The people furthest away from us get our kindness, forgiveness and attention. The ones closest to us get our anger, resentment and frustration. And that leaves the single person in our lives we know the best-our selves.
Why am I telling you this?
I realize this is why some us don’t do self-care. At the end of the day, we’ve got nothing, but anger and hate from all the interactions we’ve had and we take it out on ourselves.
The person who believes in his or her worth sees their body and experiences as a gift, also loves themselves. This is the person who devotes their resources on things like tapping or red light therapy. This is the person who spends money on coaching and counseling because they know their lives are important and they are worth it.
How can you tell the difference?
If someone is suffering and in pain, and you tell them you know something that can heal them, and they give you excuses, it’s likely they are working on their self-worth. It’s likely they’re afraid.
Every single person has a desire to be happy, feel joy and have a sense of purpose.
But maybe they haven’t forgiven themselves for their imperfections. Maybe underneath their shiny veneer, they’re afraid of others discovering their dark, unappealing side. They’re afraid like we all are of being found to be unworthy and unlovable.
There is nothing pretty about self-healing. The path towards true happiness and an authentic life is full of messy, unattractive, and even painful obstacles. We don’t get a pass when it comes to growth and healing.
You can choose to live a superficial life, but one void of meaningful relationships, and purpose.
But something tells me you’re reading this because you want something more.
I felt a call since I was a child to teach others that life can be greater than the mundane dance of bills and 9 to 5 cubicle jobs. I don’t want you to waste another of your precious time dreaming of the life you want. I want to help you to live it.