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4 Ways You’re Seriously Hurting Yourself and Others By Not Following Your Calling

Life purpose
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Think you’re doing yourself and others a favor by staying small in your safe ordinary life? Think again.

If you follow me on Facebook, you know I’ve been reading Joel Comm’s, “The Fun Formula.” In it he says words so aligned with my own beliefs, I feel like I wrote them. Here he shares the first thing that way not following your purpose hurts others.

  1. You’re preventing the world from your gifts.

“I believe that every single person who has ever walked the face of the earth was made with distinct passions and innate talents. We have an aptitude that inclines us toward specific skills and abilities that we pick up as we go through our lives, and each of us has a unique personality that makes us unlike anybody else.

We all have the ability to make a difference and bring value. And because we are unique, we have a unique ability to do so. However subtle or massive that impact is, we are designed to bring value to the world.

I would go so far as to say that if we are not using our uniqueness or passions or talents or skills or ability or personality to discover that value and present it to others, we are doing the world a disservice…Where you have an ability and don’t use it, there is a piece missing from you and from the world.”

What if you were meant to help someone struggling with illness or their purpose? What if you did nothing and stayed quiet? What if the doctors and experts and scientists in the world did nothing? We’d all suffer just like we’re suffering while you’re deciding whether to pursue your purpose.

2. You’ll be overly dramatic.

Creative people need to create. It’s in your DNA. It’s fine if you want to keep it private. Not everyone has to express themselves on social media. Just make sure you do it. Otherwise you’ll start getting irritable at everybody.

3. You’ll live through your kids.

Sure we’re all proud of our kids and believe they’re talented and beautiful. But if you’re not also working on things for yourself, you’ll not only live vicariously through them, you’ll think you are them. Because you didn’t fulfill your own dreams, you’ll expect them to live out yours.

4. You’ll get sick.

This isn’t a threat. This is a reality. There are all kinds of research that shows having a life purpose prevents you from chronic illnesses like depression, anxiety and even Alzheimer’s disease.

So what are you waiting for?

If you need a little help and live in Hawaii, I’m a coach with a background in counseling and health psychology. This means that even if you suffer from chronic illnesses, I can help you. I’ve already help someone follow her dreams. Send me an email at bauyemura@gmail.com to see if we’re a good fit.