I often see posts and classes for the ways we’re not parenting our kids right or the way we can parent better.
I need these. I’m always trying to better myself as a mother. BUT…
I wish I saw more feeds for what us mothers REALLY need. We need it like we need a glass of red wine, to chat with a girlfriend or soak in a bath.
We need it, but we don’t talk about it. Some of us don’t even realize we need it because we’ve been raised by Baby Boomers who were all, “tough it up,” “stop crying,” and “get over yourself.”
Truthfully what we really need is to have compassion that living in the 2020s suck.
I know some of you moms are taking a gazillion trips and smiling like it’s 2019. But I know even you are reeling from years of decision fatigue.
- Should I send my kid to school? Should I not?
- Should I give my kid yet another shot? Should I wait for a better one?
- Should I spend money on a much needed vacation?
- Should I stop driving to save money on gas?
- What are we eating for dinner? Wait did I even eat anything for lunch?
Yes no matter what we decide to show to the world, no matter how many drinks we imbibe to forget the reality of this Armageddon of a life, we still wake up to the same reality.
Face it. Being a mom sucks in the 2020s.
In the 70s and 80s, our moms didn’t even have to worry about getting us to wear a seatbelt. They often smoked and no one berated them for it. And how many of us were latch key kids?
Yes it’s an entirely new way of living and we’re learning it as we go along.
No matter what anyone tells you or criticizes you for, remember this hasn’t happened in our lifetime.
You are doing the best you can. You probably haven’t fully appreciated how much of a supermom you are. Even when you’re impatient, scold your kids, and make mistakes.
If every morning you wake up and try to do better and love yourself, congratulate yourself for getting through it. Forgive yourself for being human. Work on loving those imperfect parts and remember you always have another chance to do it better.
You are not a robot programmed to give into every one else’s demand.
Silence the outside voices that make you feel you are not enough, you don’t deserve a break, everyone else has gotten it figured out but you.
No.
You. Are. Doing. The. Best. You. Can.
I’ll say it again. You are doing the best you can at a highly unprecedented time.
The world is combusting. No one has a clue as to what to do next. And this all trickles down to us-the mothers. The peace keepers. The caregivers for our future.
So give yourself a break. Maybe even two.