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Month: October 2013

Poem: How Others See Me

Poem: How Others See Me

Tweet If you asked a relative/friend/acquaintance about me, they may not say it, but inside they’d think it. To them, I am a failure because… I am not a lawyer, a doctor, a primary income provider. I talk LOUDLY when I should be soft and […]

Instant Joy

Instant Joy

Tweet One of my favorite things to do besides write is create inspiring photo slideshows. It’s always something I wanted to pursue. But sadly it hasn’t been a priority. This year I want to devote more time to it. In the meantime, here’s one I […]

It’s Not About Finding Your Purpose

It’s Not About Finding Your Purpose

Accepting who you are warts and all

When I started this blogging journey, it was all about my writing. I wanted a place to pursue my passion. I wanted an arena to showcase my work and a venting spot to unleash my unexpressed writing dream. Since then, I’ve moved to Hawaii, bought a house, suffered from a few chronic illnesses and had a baby. Through it all, I realized the journey has molded my intention rather than the other way around. Instead of a place to inspire creativity and to get more writing gigs, it opened up my soul. It’s not just about finding our purpose or living our dreams. It’s about loving your life and finding a way to accept wherever we are in the process. It’s about self-acceptance. Patience. Faith. And courage.

I realized this because I found myself getting too attached to external circumstances. How many people were viewing my blog? How many freelance writing jobs was I getting? Was my work good enough?

Understandable questions to ask when striving for freelance writing success. But it was the meaning I placed on professional achievement and positive feedback that was wonky. Success, attention, like Lady Gaga’s new song, Applause, should not equal self-worth.

Doing well in your profession is important. Never giving up on your dreams is important. But more than anything else, our goal in life should be to find ways to love our self.

Basing who you are and your value on feedback from others or from success will inevitably deplete you. What nourishes our soul, what we’re really looking for, isn’t temporary validation through external sources. What lasts longer than a complement is the belief that regardless of what we accomplish, our lives mean something.

And that doesn’t have to mean BIG, grand, dramatic things. Just because your neighbor, a Facebook friend or a relative has done something so fabulous it leaves your life seem boring and worthless in comparison, doesn’t mean your less valuable than them. Just because you haven’t found “it” yet (great job, relationship, etc.), doesn’t mean you should walk around with your head down and your voice squelched.

It’s not about what you do that matters. You matter because you are here.

The secret is not in uncovering what will make us shine. The secret is that we don’t know we’re worthy of shining.

If we could all take that in on a deep level, the world would be a kinder, more loving, compassionate place to live. When we’re not trying to convince others of our worthiness, we’re ourselves. Being authentically you and feeling good in your own skin are the ways to happiness.

And your true calling?

It will find you on that path.

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Fall Season Fun

Fall Season Fun

Tweet Sorry I’ve been so out of touch lately. My excuses start with baby and end with work. Not much in-between time to do the fun stuff like blogging. But while I have a few minutes, I wanted to share a fall quickie that’s add […]

How to Hang a Backless Frame

How to Hang a Backless Frame

Tweet At the last minute, I decided our kitchen wall needed a few more personal photos. That’s what happens when you’re home all day with a new baby. Now that we’ve added a little bundle of blue to our family, hanging up a montage of […]

What True Courage Looks Like

What True Courage Looks Like

Hanapepe Bridge

In the shadow of everything grand, sits courage.

It lies in quiet moments of surrender,

in calmness beneath the surface of the ocean.

in silence,

and in speech,

in crowds,

and in isolation.

It invites, but does not require company

and is seldom a medal of honor.

In truth it’s hidden

behind the face of a mother

in every black sheep,

in failure and in success,

not just the soldier, but the stay-at-homer, the 9-5er, the EVERY DAY man.

It is the quiet victories

not just the well documented ones.

It’s as much a part of the fighter

as in the peacemaker.

It is a test,

a challenge,

a lesson learned, and

the road to true happiness.

It is a choice

and yet it is present

at birth.

It is an open hand,

and a vulnerable heart.

True courage is something to marvel at from afar,

but resides in the potential of every man.

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