I’ve blogged about finding your calling here and here. But it seems as though I missed the boat when it comes to helping you find your dreams.
After you’ve discovered what you want. And you’ve thought about it. Wrote about it. Did what Eat, Pray, Love author Elizabeth Gilbert does every day and write what you really, really, really want in your journal. Took all the steps to get to it. Marketed yourself. Educated yourself. Networked yourself crazy. But you are still here.
Waiting.
Praying.
Wondering.
Doubting.
Cause you’re still not where you want to be…
Maybe you’re starting to think taking that e-course would have been the way to go or that you shouldn’t have turned down that job offer you had recently. What’s taking SO long?! And why oh why haven’t you gotten there yet?!
I am an impatient person so I totally understand what you’re going through.
But the truth of the matter is the greatest obstacle that could be standing in the way of your dreams is…Y-O-U!
If you’ve ever questioned your talent, doubted your efforts, find yourself wondering if you’re really worthy of ______ (happiness, success, love, etc.), then you’re the one who’s holding yourself back.
The missing piece is you. It’s always been you.
It’s not your father, your teacher, your difficult client, your children, your siblings, your uncompassionate friend, your unsupportive spouse.
It’s you.
You are unfortunately and fortunately the thing in the way of your dreams.
And the only way you’re going to get there is to stop blaming others and start healing yourself.
How do you do that?
1. Bully yourself with love. When your thoughts are filled with negative self-talk, overpower them with positive words of self-love.
2. Remind yourself of what you’ve already accomplished. When faced with a new opportunity, you may automatically respond with the thought: “I can’t do that.” Tell yourself, “I already have.” Remember all the impossible feats you’ve already overcome.
3. Visualize yourself already there. Sometimes the fear that we can’t do something, sabotages our efforts. Visualizing that we’ve already achieved what we’re afraid of somehow makes the tasks seem less intimidating.
4. Remember why you want it. Focusing on why you’re doing what you’re doing can help alleviate some of the anxiety associated with success. If you’re intention is to help others, you will be less likely to shirk away from that next project because you’re focused on a larger goal.
5. Practice patience. When we are wounded, we put a band-aid over the sore spot to give it time to heal. It’s the same with our soul. Sometime it takes times to be where want to be. Have patience that you will get there. In the meantime, work on loving yourself. Work on healing the wounds of insecurity, rejection, unworthiness with love, acceptance, understanding.
Eventually, a new door will open. The question is, “Will you be ready for it?”
