• Your Thinking is Keeping You Stuck

    “Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.” – Pablo Picasso I’ve been reading the new book by Brendon Burchard called High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way. If you’ve been stuck and can’t push forward, then this is the book you should be reading. Burchard has many successful online programs some of which are free. I’m a big fan of his work. And I’m not the only one. He’s a New York Times bestselling author with accolades from the likes of Oprah Winfrey. But here’s why his newest book is worthy of your attention. If you haven’t gotten to where you wanted to yet, maybe you’re burnt our or…

  • What You Can Learn From Failed Businesses

    You may be surprised by what causes failure. I’ve become a failure expert over the years. I’ve been a consultant for entrepreneurs and small businesses. I’ve been their coach and freelance writer. Here’s what I learned. A lack of passion doesn’t cause a business to fail. Nor is it a lack of skill. In fact, most entrepreneurs are wildly enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they’re good at it too. But that can be what blindsides them. When you’re too invested in what you’re doing, you confuse your business with your baby. Success requires a different skill than parenting. Yes you need to love your business. But you need to…

  • Why I Think Awkwardness and Discomfort Are Underrated

    Maybe it’s because the idea of awkwardness triggers those traumatic early memories of adolescence. But every time we’re in a new situation we’re afraid of tripping up again, terrified the veil of adulthood will fall and we’ll be standing vulnerable, uncool and as awkward as we were as teens. We grow up, but rarely do we leave these earlier experiences behind. We get better at hiding it. We have the ability to avoid certain situations that would peel it out of us. That’s why besides talking to remove awkward silences or doing any new activity that will bring out our clumsiness, we also can’t stand discomfort. Maybe we can afford…

  • Overwhelmed? This is Why and This is the Solution.

    The other night I couldn’t sleep. I was thinking about all the insurmountable pressures and tasks that comprise a day. If you’re a mother, your home must be kept tidy. Your kids must be polite, well-behaved, and have some skill that makes them better than smart. They need to be “special.” And even if they’re really little and you’ve never done this before, you need to be good at it. Your body knew how to create a baby so you must know how to care for one. You can’t ever lose your temper, and if you do, you must do it in when your kids aren’t around. And make sure…

  • A Life Changing Tool You Can Enact Right Now

    If you missed my post on Instagram, you didn’t see my awkward pic of Elizabeth Gilbert or read I attended the Wanderlust festival this year. If you’re curious to know what Wanderlust on Oahu is like, I wrote about my first experience in an essay here. I also wrote about this year’s festival and the small piece of advice Gilbert gave to writers. Anyway, I wasn’t expecting the half day workshop to be as emotional as it was. To start, “Big Magic Creativity Workshop,” was a little misleading, in a good way. I imagined we’d be sitting in groups painting and writing. While the around 250 of us did pair…

  • Surprising Ways Successful People Fell Into Their Purpose

    I hear stories all the time about how someone was living their daily, unfulfilled or maybe even fulfilled lives, when a calling came knocking at the door. A few old friends, for example, changed career course after they met a homeless family and decided to devote their money and time into investing in real estate so they could use it to create much-needed affordable housing. Judith Orloff, MD, who everyone knows as the empath guru, says in her online class that a dream told her to return to school to become a psychiatrist so she could help legitimize intuition in the field of medicine. Author and Glamour magazine editor Elisabeth…