Maybe I haven’t entirely let go of my favorite TV show Scrubs yet, because today I thought about another poignant piece featured in the last episode. J.D. was watching his life as if it were a movie. Specifically, imagining all the amazing possibilities his future could bring like getting married, having more kids, and making memories with his closest friends. That image gave me goose bumps not because I was vicariously living through his character, but because it hit close to home.
It got me thinking about the importance of dreaming and visualizing fantasies of our own future. Obviously, no ones life turns out exactly the way we want them to be (unless you’re psychic), but it’s dreaming that helps motivate us and leads us to our goals.
The best part? You’re totally free to be the producer of your own movie without the fear of being judged or criticized for what you want. That means in my dreams, I can be a successful Carrie Bradshaw wannabe making enough money to buy tons of clothes not to mention shoes and enough time to hang out with my friends on a daily basis and still come up with witty, intelligent copy on a daily basis. Aw, to dream. It may not automatically make me a star but it’ll surely give me the chance to be the star in my own future movie. And that kind of reaction, well that can inspire real dreams to unfold gradually.
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The last episode of one of my favorite TV shows “Scrubs” came to its final end recently. I was oh so sad to see this comedy show say its good-byes and it was a reminder to me about how hard it is to let things go. And it doesn’t have to be the big goodbyes that are the hardest. Whether we are saying goodbye to a TV show or a friend, ends are hard because it is an awakening of consciousness that life is short with its own inevitable finale. Some of us avoid ends like the plague by resorting to isolation, not connecting with others, or just by resisting change. I know I’ve been guilty of all three at least once in my life. So how do we learn to accept endings in the most graceful, beneficial way possible? By first grieving the lost of whatever that end brings. Whether it is a saying goodbye to your single self or to your married one, it’s important to fully respect what that ending means to you and represents in your life. The main thing to know is that change will come no matter how hard we try to avoid it. But when we can have the courage to accept it, that’s when we gain the most benefit for ourselves and for others.