Posts tagged ‘Being Present’

August 19th, 2009

The Return of Simplicity

Do you remember the time when only doctors and dentists owned pagers and cell phones?  When needing to get in touch with someone was an actual emergency?  Before iPhones and cellphones and laptops, iPods, and Kindles peppered coffee shops and bookstores, interrupted meetings, lunches or shopping trips.  Sure it may have been a lot more boring, but boredom inspired imagination and creativity.

I have fond members of those so called boring times.  It’s when paper boats were made on rainy days, large cardboard boxes became my box car and catepillars were caught in glass jars as we waited patiently for them to transform.   Today feels like more than a hop, skip and a few years from that time.  We’ve progressed technologically but at what cost to our sense of simplicity?

As you may have already guessed, I’ve been taking a little break from my blogging.  Maybe once every other day instead of every day.  The reason?  I’m actually on vacation in Hawaii.  But before you get all jealous of me, I have to preface this by explaining that I am from Hawaii.  Okay still envious eh?  Well it’s pretty hot and humid here and all I have been doing is sweating!

On the positive side, I have had ample time to reflect on my life.  Whenever I come home, I am reminded of a slower paced existence.  Yesterday I spent the day with my dad.  He drove around the island.  We pigged out on local food, sweet island tea and shave ice and I sweated out the fat and sugar while we road around.  As I sat in the car watching the world pass me by, I grew suddenly sick.  What was I doing?  Shouldn’t I be doing something?  Doesn’t my blog need to be written?  Shouldn’t I be tweeting?  Will I lose my beloved followers if I suddenly disappear?

Then, we stopped at a beach.  As I walked in the soft pudding like  sand, my slippers sunk in and the waves ran over them like warm hands pulling me in.  I walked slowly, waved at two local guys on a boat passing me by and I just exhaled.  Simplicity was back and I wasn’t going anywhere.

At that point, I lost my dad for several minutes.  I walked in circles until I eventually caught up with him and watched as he used his net to haphazardly pull up fresh bait for his fish.  Time passed and I kind of got lost in the moment.  It was quite meditative and more natural than doing any type of forced meditation.  I have to admit that I enjoyed doing nothing.  Doing nothing had a purpose.  It provided me with a renewed sense of what it means to be alive.  And it got me thinking-how many of us go through life feeling behind, like we’ll never catch up and in doing so miss out on the precious moments of our life.  I don’t think life is supposed to be about how much we accomplish or the things we need to do to succeed.  I think maybe it’s the kind of moments that sneak up on you, when you least expect it, when you are doing “nothing.”  Those are the times that remind you to take a step back, breathe, sink your feet in the sand, and remember the importance of simplicity.

July 7th, 2009

In the meantime, in between time

Sometimes you know where you want to be but you just can’t get there yet.  You might be working at a job you hate or in a relationship that’s not working. That’s okay.  You can still get to your dream and live in the moment now, no matter how sucky that now might be.  

The time between now and then may seem like eons away.  When you’re staring at the gold at the end of the rainbow but you’re standing under some gray clouds and rain, your present moment may not seem as dreamy as you’d wish it to be.  

So what do you do to stay focused on your far away dreams?

Stay positive.  Watch funny movies.  Call your funny friends.  And remember to surround yourself with as much positivity as you can stand.  It’s going to be rough in the meantime, so at least have some fun along the way.

Stay present but remain focused on the goal.  Some days may be harder than others to get through the day.  When I was feeling stuck at my 9-5 job, I used my lunch hour to read books on following my dreams and strategized how I would get there.  I had a plan and a timeline.  This helped me to stay focus on my future goals and prevented me from getting overwhelmed by the difficulties of daily life.

Try to find the silver lining.  Maybe your job, relationship, etc. isn’t the greatest, but you’re going through it for a reason.  Try to figure out what this situation is trying to teach you so that you can learn from the situation.

In the meantimes are always rough.  I know because I’ve had my share.  Remember to be kind to yourself during this time and know that like everything else, “this too shall pass.”

June 16th, 2009

A Healthy Inspiration

I’m always amazed by what life can teach us.  When we’re up, we’re up but when we’re down, it seems life kicks it up a notch and the lesson becomes that much richer.

While I was sick this week, I realized how much I really needed it.  Most people wouldn’t pray for sickness, but I think inside I was in dire need of time to rest and recuperate.  Instead, getting my blogs up to par, my queries out and articles written seemed way more important than me or my health.

I sacrificed much needed idle time where inspiration is created and sleep for time to write outside of my day job and for what?  After a handful of days doing nothing, I got an epiphany when I realized that nothing was loss or gain.  

In fact, today while I was still at home recovering I felt sublimely happy and not because I received any accolades, got a great new job, or won me a plum writing contract, but I realized that all of that didn’t matter.  All that mattered was that I rested, relaxed and read when I felt like it.  

I’m hoping this new lesson will stay with me as my fever dies so that I can bring new appreciation to my life, one that’s not about trying to “make it” in this crazy world of ours.  All I know is that feeling unsick is the best feeling ever and if I can remember how important THAT is, everything else will go by the wayside…

April 30th, 2009

Reading the Signs

w20-11The other day, I took a walk and noticed a big sign that read, “Road Work Ahead.” Then I thought, what a great representation of life.  Right when you think you’ve got life figured out, some obstacle, a roadblock, challenges you to rethink your life and you’re stuck asking yourself that age old question, “Why me?”  

Life IS about change after all and though we sometimes want to avoid it, there will always be more roads to build, more paths to heal, and more decisions to be made.  The great thing is that the choice is always in our hands.  Do we, for example, when faced with an obstacle turn around and run the other way, keep trekking on, or take a break and reflect on where we’ll go next?  

Regardless of how we respond, the great thing about signs is that it reminds us that life can be as magical as it was when we were kids.  The magic lies in the small, seemingly insignificant events filled with miracles and signs of hope that’ll lead you to the real gold at the end of the rainbow, your dreams.  The key is to open our eyes and hearts to possibility and be fully present in every day moments like these and have the courage to take a deep breath and plow ahead.

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