There’s some things in life that we have no control over. Things like the weather, the economy, and these days even our job situation can make us feel helpless and vulnerable to change. But there are other things such as where we live, what actions we take on a daily basis and how we choose to be towards others that we can change. Why is this important? Understanding what stage you are in can help bring awareness to why you haven’t loss that weight, applied for that job or taken steps toward your dreams. Keep reading to determine where you are in the process of change.
According to James Prochaska, John Norcross and Carlo Diclemente in Changing for Good, there are six stages of change. The first is precontemplation. You are considered a precontemplator if you resist change, are in denial that you need to change and externalize your problems-blaming others for them instead of focusing on yourself.
The second stage is contemplation. Contemplators, in comparison to precontemplators, acknowledge that they have a problem and want to find a solution for it. They are, however, stuck in limbo lacking commitment toward their goals. They know that they want to change, and may even have steps to get there but they’d rather be thinking about it rather than acting on it.
Preparation is next. Contemplators who deal with their fears and anxiety and take steps toward action are considered to be in the preparation stage. Although they are committed and may have already taken steps toward change, this is also the time where ambivalence can potentially sabotage their efforts.
Action. The stage that involves modifying behaviors such as applying and interviewing for jobs, or getting rid of junk food in the house. It requires significant time and commitment to your goals.
Then, there’s Maintenance. Being cognizant of the gains you have made up to this point needs to be recognized as well as being aware of future challenges. It is easy to relapse from this stage so strong commitment is imperative to keeping you on the right track.
Lastly, Termination. If you’re breaking a bad habit or addiction then termination may either mean you’ve reached your goal and/or that you need to be sure to maintain this state for the rest of your life. If your change was getting a dream job, or moving to another state, celebrate! You’ve successfully reached the other side and can reap the benefits of your hard work, serious self-reflection and commitment to your dreams.
The other day, I took a walk and noticed a big sign that read, “Road Work Ahead.” Then I thought, what a great representation of life. Right when you think you’ve got life figured out, some obstacle, a roadblock, challenges you to rethink your life and you’re stuck asking yourself that age old question, “Why me?” 
I bought these great Self-Care cards from Cheryl Richardson ($10.85 from