Posts tagged ‘how to be a writer’

September 3rd, 2009

Do You Have the BALLS?!

All this talk about fear has gotten me scared.  I mean COME ON after reading a handful of articles about writer’s who ate only raw food or fast food for a month, or worked in an Alzheimer’s care facility, I started to ask myself, “Do I have the balls to be a writer?”

What does it take to be a writer?  What does it take to do anything we dream of doing for that matter?

Sure there’s talent, skill, experience, luck…Wait, I just watched Oprah today and ventriloquist Terry Fator said luck had nothing to do with his recent multimillion dollar contract with the Mirage Hotel in Vegas. This sucks because I was really hoping to at least get 1 out of 4.

But seriously if it ain’t luck and I’m too much of a chicken to eat tasteless food or take care of Alzheimer’s patients, then what good am I?

If you’re asking yourself the same questions and are thinking “what’s the use in trying,” I’d say think again.  Sure there may be hundreds of thousands-even millions-of people trying to do what you do, but there is also no one else in the world like you.  The best way to transform your dreams into a reality is to find something you are truly passionate about and don’t stop trying.

When I think back on my life as a young girl from a small island, I never would have believed that I would one day travel to Italy and Greece or see my name in a book or a magazine.  I’m sure you have your own story too.  We all need to believe that we were put on this earth for a purpose.  That our individualities, our quirkiness, what makes others think we’re weird, is all part of what makes us unique.  Let’s celebrate that instead of spending time hiding it!

Oprah has said countless times that we should embrace who we are and be good at that instead of trying to be someone else.  I agree and think that courage comes when we let go of the crutches that give us a false sense of security, a pseudo protection from the world.  We need to let go, risk failing and falling hard to grow, hope and dream.

When I was in middle school, probably my most hated time in life, all I wanted was to be like everyone else.  Now in my thirties, I am a cheerleader for my differences.  The more different, the better!  That’s why I think that although I might not have the courage to do any great feat, I can write because I can do one thing right-believe.  Belief in yourself can get you everywhere.  Although you need to talent, a bit of luck and experience to push you through, you can’t go very far unless you believe that you can.

So here’s hoping that with every new endeavor, you carry a stroke of luck, a gift of talent and skill, that you befriend courage and hold belief close to your heart.  That, my friend, is the balls you need to get you through any scary obstacle toward your dreams.

Athens

September 2nd, 2009

Cover Story is Up

I’ve been a busy bee these days trying to follow my dreams.  One of them has been my long held desire to write for a magazine.  Although I’m still climbing that never ending hill, I’m trying to enjoy the journey.  Here is one fruit of my labor. (Sherry from Young House Love taught me this cool trick: Now you can click on the photo to magnify the image so go ahead and read away!)

Eucalyptus September Issue

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September 1st, 2009

How to Beat the Fear Monster

Yesterday I spent my jet lag haze scanning the aisles in a nearby bookstore.  My target?  Books on writing.  I’m always surprised by the lack of how-tos for writers in a bookstore.

But I digress, in the two shelves that I did find I was surprised by the flurry of book titles dealing with fear.  (The Courage to Write: How Writer’s Transcend Fear and The Writer’s Portable Therapist, to name a few.) Is writing a scary profession?  We don’t risk our lives daily like stuntmen or hold the lives of men, women and children in our hands like doctors, so what’s with all these books on fear?

Then I started having visions about my Hawaiian vacation back home.  Sneezing through dust filled binders stuffed with old papers, I was perplexed by what I saw. Wordy prose, unsightly grammatical errors and lengthly text swallowed my thoughts and points.  The attack of the too much word monster strikes again.  It’s what haunted my old homework assignments and what still gets to me now.  What plagued my work was a lack of confidence that the words could speak for themselves.

Why is writing so scary? Like anything you do which involves having your heart on the line, there is a huge risk of your heart getting broken.  When you put yourself out there, there’s a chance that people won’t like what you have to offer (fear of rejection) or that you might not be good enough (insecurity).  The best cure for either is to build up your self-confidence.

If you are a writer or a job dreamer, counterattack those fear episodes and transform seemingly indestructible obstacles by becoming the confident, self-assured person you want to be.  Author Ariel Gore of, “How to Become a Famous Writer Before You’re Dead” uses a superhero alter ego to take over tasks that mere mortals can’t do.  Singer Beyonce Knowles uses ‘Sasha’ another alter ego as her stage persona.  In the November 2005 issue of Vanity Fair she said, “I always held back in Destiny’s Child, because I was comfortable in a group and felt that I didn’t have to do anything 100 percent, because there were other people onstage with me. I would not lose myself or go all the way.”

This quote similarly represents what I went through as a writer.  I often held back because I wasn’t comfortable putting it all out there.  I thought that I had to beef up my prose with difficult words and phrases to cover up the fact that I wasn’t a good enough writer.  This way if people rejected what they read I could just say, “Well I wasn’t really trying anyway.”

The fear monster took over my words and ended up controlling my life.  It took me two degrees and a decade later for me to trust what I always knew-that my lot and love in life was to be a writer.

The real question is, “What is holding you back from living the life of your dreams?”  You may think it’s money, talent or time but what might be lurking under these is fear.

Hawaiian Flower