December 13th, 2009

Why Walt Disney Inspires Me

Yesterday I had the great fortune of attending the Disney museum. But I didn’t have to go all the way to Disneyland or Disney World to get there. Lucky for me, the Walt Disney Family museum was in my neighborhood. Just an hour drive away from home, in the Presidio area of San Francisco.

I was initially skeptical. Hmmm…Disney in San Francisco? How Disney could it be? A long time fan of the two parks, I definitely had my doubts.

But I’m happy to report that not only was the museum entertaining, it was INSPIRING!

So what did I get for $20?

Although gone was the fantasy engendered by magical cast members and edible food, there was something well worth the price of admission.

I developed a keen sense that Walt Disney was a man of dreams, dignity and determination. Three D’s I previously didn’t know went with Disney.

Hearing audio recordings of his family life, watching videos and reading historical accounts of his life, I felt the birth of a dream and the fascinating man behind the mouse.

Who was Walt E. Disney?

1. Someone who had supportive parents. Haven’t ever met the guy, I can’t say for sure. But based on the museum, I’d say he was a boy who was lucky to have parents who supported his dream. His family though poor, paid for him to attend classes at an art institute.

2. Passionate about his craft. Disney fell in love with drawing as a kid and continued to draw and create cartoons. He was a cartoonist for his school newspaper and continued to focus on his artistic career throughout his life.

3. Optimistic and positive attitude. There many times in Disney’s career that people tried to take advantage of him. Yet, he kept going because he was positive and optimistic about the future.

4. He learned from his mistakes. At the beginning, Disney made a lot of mistakes. He signed contracts without reading them and trusted people he shouldn’t have. He lost a lot of money by doing so, but being the smart guy he is, quickly learned from his mistakes. To him, a mistake was just a little blimp in his path.

5. Someone who surrounded himself with positive peeps. To be as successful as he was, it would behoove Mr. D to surround himself with supportive people. And he did. He held a party at Disneyland to celebrate his wedding anniversary with friends and family and only those people he liked to be with.

6. He kept going. Disney could have stopped as a cartoonist, or as a film producer. He would have been successful enough by then. But he kept going. He persevered through war, times of uncertainty, and people who betrayed him and then created Disneyland. Now that’s inspiring!

7. He was kind to others. A young actress who worked with Disney said it was a joy to be around him. He never criticized her and was supportive. Former employees said if you saw Disney around the company’s campus, you could go up to him and talk with him about anything. That’s just the kind of guy he was.

8. He never forgot those who helped him. There is a story of how one woman helped him when he was just starting out. He never forgot her and would help support her for the rest of her life. He remembered the people who was there for him and gave back in return.

9. He kept young at heart. Disney had a life-size train right in his backyard. The 1/2 mile route went around his home. I loved seeing the joy in his eyes as he rode around on the train with his family.

I didn’t know Walt Disney, but I wish I did. Something tells me, he’d be a mentor and a hero. Whenever I feel like giving up, I’ll remember Mr. Disney, his vision, and how from an idea he made Disneyland!

December 11th, 2009

What's so Inspiring about the Holidays?

Cold weather, angry drivers and packed malls are more than enough reasons to say, “Bah! Humbug! when the Christmas season comes rolling along. It’s actually one thing my Jehovah’s witness girl friend likes about her religion. No long shopping lists and late night runs to the mall for her. No pressure. No crazy spending.

Even though we celebrate Christmas every year, this year we decided to follow suit by making things a whole lot simpler. With the economy and my smaller income as a freelance writer, we’ve downsized our holiday.

This means no going to Hawaii to visit friends and family, which ends up saving us about $1200. Though we’ll miss our loved ones greatly and the warm weather, we know it’ll be just as nice in January when prices go down significantly.

It also means less stress having to buy gifts before the 25th.

And although I’m feeling a little sad about not spending time with my Hawaii clan, I am looking forward to a less chaotic Christmas. No more worrying about which family we’re seeing this year, which party to go to and if we’ll have time to visit everybody and their kids.

This year it’s just me and the husband, oh and our little pet bunny.

I think I’m going to savor the simplicity. Remembering what is inspiring about the holidays. The hope for the new year. The gratitude for the year past. And the excitement that exists in the now.

Without having to spend my time, energy and money on material things. It almost makes me glad for the economy being the way it is. Maybe we can all relearn the fun of being together, to appreciate our friends and family and remember the importance of loving each other during the holidays.

That’s my hope anyway.

December 8th, 2009

Passionate about Portland

My husband inspired this entry.

In Portland, after visiting with friends and family he said, “Don’t you think it’s inspiring?”

“What’s inspiring?” I asked.

“The way people in Portland care so much about what they do. How they take their time to make the best coffee or beer or craft.”

I never thought much about it in great detail until he brought it up. But he was right. Portlanders did care and it showed. It explained why it took so long to get a cup of joe, the artisans crafting it were putting passion in a cup. In fact, it took awhile to get everything there. And there was something else-being unique seemed to be treasured.

The City of Roses even have a slogan for their city, “Keep Portland weird.” It got me thinking-wouldn’t it be great if we all had that as our personal motto and brought that level of passion, creativity and individuality to everything we did? What an amazing thing to be accepted for your uniqueness and cherished for your craft.

I think it’s an important reminder for everyone to keep growing, learning and pushing past what’s familiar and easy to bring the best of ourselves to each situation every day. I don’t know about you but that’s something I’d aspire to.

Hot cocoa in Portland

December 2nd, 2009

What Facing My Fear Taught Me

So I did it. I opened myself raw to the possibility of being ridiculed and humiliated and you know what? It ain’t so bad. Sure, I haven’t seen the footage yet and won’t see it until some time next year, but so far so good. My being is intact.

Prior to yesterday, I’d often wondered in judgement why some people go on reality shows. While I still don’t completely understand it, I did come out with a fresh perspective.

I came out thinking that maybe not everybody did it for fame or money. Maybe some like myself, did it to conquer their fears.

Although I shriveled up like a shrinking violet in the eye of a camera and fuzzy microphone, I still stood up straight and smiled. It took every ounce of courage to fight my inner desire to run.

This wasn’t the first time I’ve been camera. Actually it’s my third, but this one was a lot harder. Instead of being a passerby, this one involved me speaking on camera, answering spontaneous questions. Two things I detest. Yet, I found the courage to do it and felt empowered by it.

I wish everyone had the experience to challenge themselves and take the opportunity to try something new or face a fear. Whether it’s talking in front of hundreds of people or traveling to a new country, I think what you get when you face your fears is a gift worth receiving. The experience is inspiring, quite invigorating and in the end invites more positive opportunities.

Besides re-confirming my belief that I will never be an actor, it showed me that I’m capable of quite a lot. And that’s an invaluable lesson, one that I would have missed had I given in to the fear and chose safety and comfort instead.

Have you done anything that scared you lately? If so, I’d love to hear it.

November 30th, 2009

Feeling the Fear and Doing It Anyway

If you had the opportunity, would you do something you feared most? As I’m writing this, my stomach is in knots, turning like I’m sailing out to sea not sitting comfortably in my chair. Yet, I’m considering doing it.

There have been many times in my life when I had the chance to risk something great (like my pride) for something greater (self-confidence). Like the time I took a job giving speeches to hundreds of people even though the feeling of eyes staring back at me turns my cheeks hot and I hate talking in a group of 5 let alone 200. Yet, I did it anyway.

There were times in my life when I let fear wash over me. Like when I was 6 years old and I chickened out at my grandparent’s surprise wedding anniversary. I practiced my speech for days. I can still see the index cards in my sweaty hands. At the end I was supposed to sing Kermit’s, “Rainbow Connection” while my cousins played the piano and ukulele. I got to the mike and my voice failed me. My mom took me by the hand and I left the stage in defeat. I’ll never forget that moment.

Then there was the time I took an F for my elementary school class project because I was too afraid to give my presentation. I spent weeks planning for it and when the teacher called my name, I looked the other way.

Tonight I’m faced with another one of my greatest fears to risk being made a fool of on national TV. Yet, I’m going to do it anyway.

You might think I’m crazy or foolish. Who wants to stand out like sore thumb while people take cheap shots at me? You know what? I do. I want to do it not because I’m a masochist, but because I believe I’ll get something even bigger for the experience. The chance to stare fear down and do it anyway.

One point for the fearless fool, zero for the fear.

November 23rd, 2009

When to Say Good-Bye

Oprah’s announcement to end her long 25 year run talk show came as both a shock and a heartbreak to me. As one of her biggest fans and someone who still hadn’t had the luxury of seeing the Oprah Winfrey show live, I just didn’t feel like I was ready to say good-bye.

After my shock dissipated, curiosity set in. What would make a successful talk show host making millions of dollars an episode, suddenly want to say good-bye?

When Kate Gosselin said sayonara on Jon & Kate Plus 8’s final episode (another show I was sad to see go) she was a well of emotion and not ready to let go.

Yet, when I listened to Gayle King talk to Ms. Winfrey on Oprah radio, it seemed like she had no regrets.

I realized, then, that even in her decision to end the show, Oprah was inspiring.

One of the hardest things I think, is ending something good in your life because it’s not right for you. You may be happy, things might be going well, but like Oprah told Gayle on her radio show she knew it was the right decision because she felt it in her bones. How many people can honor a decision like that just because they knew it was the right thing to do?

People might say you’re crazy. There may be a million reasons why you shouldn’t do it, but if you feel pulled somewhere deep to take that leap or to end something that was once right for you but isn’t right now, maybe we need to listen to ourselves.  Maybe we should be like Oprah. Take a chance, believe, and have faith that we may not know the outcome of our choices but can trust our decisions to do what’s best for ourselves.

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November 19th, 2009

What They're Saying About 2inspired

If you didn’t already know, I’m on Twitter @2inspired and Facebook @2Inspired. I hope you’ll join me there for more conversations and for the latest inspiring news!  So far on Twitter, I’ve been graded a 90 out of a 100. If you are already following me, thanks!

If you’re new to 2inspired or a loyal reader but missed it, take a tour with me now to see what everyone’s been saying about the blog:

Sophia on Life Lessons from Me Five Years AgoI can’t tell you how much this helped me.

Trust another Asian to be able to finally understand what it’s like to desperately want approval from the people you love the most. I’ve lived my whole life trying to please my father, even though it’s not possible.

And I just took step 9 myself – I quit a graduate program two months in when I realized I really didn’t want to do it. It was painful and felt ragged at the time, but so necessary.

Lisa on My Grandma’s Hands: That is a very emotive & heartfelt account of your relationship with your grandma. Well done for putting it out there.

Raechel on Sacrifice, Sweat & Sweet Surrender: Great post! If we surrender our dreams and plans, then we may be surprised by things we would never even have thought possible to dream about. As writers we need to base our self-worth on how we feel, not what others think because it can be a hard world out there for us…..

Bridget on The I’m Not Worthy Syndrome: I’m a big Cheryl Richardson fan too. Her book Stand Up for Your Life changed my m.o. and my life has been steadily getting better ever since! More opportunities to do work I love and more money for doing it. I stumbled upon your blog researching Cheryl’s current web presence. I haven’t created my own blog yet, but I will be soon. I also want to inspire others to live their dreams but I come at it from a Feldenkrais, Improv, EFT perspective.

Minnie on Do You Have Balls?: I’m glad you disagree with Terry Fator about luck! I also believe luck plays important roles in our endeavors. The other things (skills, talent, courage) are important too, and are more within our controls. Perhaps luck is the embodiment of “things beyond our control.” That’s why we need to belief, as you pointed out. Not only believing in ourselves but also belief that the things beyond our control will carry us through our endeavors. Anyway… just my random thoughts conceived from your insightful writings.

Like the BALLS picture :)

Psychology of Success on Fear of Asking for What You WantMy father told me that there are only two answers that a person can give you when you ask a question, “Yes or No.”

He told him that his father told him the same thing. I never forgot that and it made asking for things a lot easier.

Pochp on Fear of Asking for What You want: Very helpful post.

Knowwhatandwhere on The Good, The Bad, The Ugly: Great article and so very true – except for #5 in my particular case. Running your own business is demanding in many ways. But I still believe that there is nothing more exciting than being on this journey – it is a roller-coaster…

Jonalyn on Giving It Up Ain’t So Bad: Hi! i love the blog. i am kinda on the horizons right now. still undecided of things. hope I can sort things out sooner. it’s a nice blog! smile!

Thanks guys for all of the awesome comments! Keep it coming. I’d love to get a discussion going here for all of you inspiring seekers and successful dreamers out there. Thanks for the love guys!!

November 17th, 2009

Successful Dreamer: Annabel Candy

Successful DreamerI believe things happen for a reason and my recent run in with inspiring blogger Annabel Candy is a good example of that. Call it synchronicity. Call it a god wink. Call it mere coincidence. What I know for sure is that finding Candy was sweet synergy to me.

I first spotted her on Problogger. She was a guest blogger, posting the popular, “Getting Over the Blogger’s 6 Month Itch.” I was so intrigued that I ventured over to her site Get in the Hot Spot to check it out. When I discovered that her mission was to help others follow their dreams, I was sold. That’s why I’m thrilled to feature here as this week’s Successful Dreamer! I hope that you’ll be as inspired by Annabel as I was by her. So without further ado, please welcome inspiring writer and world traveler, Annabel Candy.

Where’d you get that fabulously creative name for your blog Get in the Hot Spot?

I set the blog up to put myself ‘in the hot spot’ and force myself to write, so the name came from that idea. But there are a few other meanings of ‘hot spot’ that fit nicely too.

A hot spot’s a lively, active place and I want my blog to be a fun, informative centre for personal development with the focus on helping people achieve their dreams.

My personal dream involves travel and a lot of my readers also want to travel, yearning for warmer climates and exotic places. Get In the Hot Spot is a place where people can come to dream, to learn how to start working towards their dreams and to stay motivated. The idea is that me and the readers each enjoy living in our own personal hot spot.

Give us bit of info about your blog. What was your original purpose for writing it and where do you see it going in the future?

The aim has changed. At first I did it to get myself to write. That worked.

Then I decided to see if I could get 1000 subscribers to convince a publisher I had a readership and get my manuscript published. But I had more fun writing the blog than the manuscript!

I’m still working towards getting 1000 subscribers in a year but I have until March 2010 to achieve it. If that works the next challenge will be to see if I can make money out of my blog because that way I can carry on writing it without my husband complaining that I spend too much time on it:)

I’d love to keep getting more readers and help more people to start working towards living their dream.

What is one of the most important things you’ve learned on your journey to follow your dreams?

If you don’t follow your dreams you won’t be happy. If they don’t work out it won’t matter, you’ll be glad you tried and good will still come from that. For me true happiness lies in following our secret dreams, no matter how big, small or silly they are.

Can you describe a huge hurdle in your life and how you tackled it?

I can think of three big hurdles:
Doing an MA in Design for Interactive Media when I didn’t even know how to turn on a computer was hard.
Giving birth to an 11lb baby at home was hard.
Travelling round Central America with three kids aged 1, 5 and 8 was hard.

But I love to take on challenges. I get stuck in and do it. The hard part doesn’t last long when you look back and the final rewards are brilliant.

When you set yourself a challenge and do it you end up feeling as if you’ve conquered Everest. It’s a real confidence booster that makes you think you can do anything. It gives you a winning attitude which encourages you to challenge yourself more.

Have you ever doubted your ability to be a full-time writer? How have you managed to overcome this fear?

Yes! All the time. I think a lot of writers do.

The only way to overcome doubt or fear is to face it. So I wrote and shared my writing then I got some positive feedback and that persuaded me to carry on.

Like most things writing takes practice. Now I write daily my writing is faster and hopefully it’s getting better too.

What is one advice you wished someone had told you about pursuing your passion and following your dreams?

Go for it. My parents warning me not to become a writer because it was “too competitive”. I want to encourage my kids to do what they love and try things out for themselves. You have to learn by experience.

What do you love best about your job as a full-time blogger?

Two things. When you get a new idea for a post – the aha moment is great.

And I love reading comments from people thanking me for inspiring me and helping them. That’s why I write so it’s great to know when I’ve achieved my goal.

Thank you Annabel for your words of wisdom and inspiration!  Please visit Annabel’s website Get in the Hot Spot 2 be inspired. She would love to hear from you and is open to questions and to assist readers looking to pursue their dreams.

November 12th, 2009

What Inspired Me About Being a Reporter

I originally posted this on my professional website but thought it also applies here. Even if you’re not a writer, you may be going through self-doubt and insecurity about your chosen career. Read how the process of being a newspaper reporter helped me get over my own fears.

Reporter Notes

photo by: RogueSun Media

I say “acting” because that’s what all writers feel at some point in their careers. That we are all acting, pulling the wool over everyone’s eyes, pretending that we are actual writers when there are days we wonder if we’ll ever really deserve the title.

That’s how I felt on the days I put on my mask and became “the journalist.” Since I got my degree in English not Journalism, I wear that badge with both fear and trepidation. I don’t want anyone thinking that I (god forbid!) am a real reporter less they mock my writing style, scrutinize my copy and laugh behind my back at my poor attempt at journalistic prose. After all, I’m not a real reporter, am I?

While undercover in my sad attempt to protect my weary heart from public attack, I still learned a great deal about life. Whether we admit it or not, the process of writing enables us to become the role we fear-a writer. The amazing thing is that when I learn to accept the possibility of the position, I learned a great deal about myself and about life. Here’s what I absorbed from walking in the shoes of a reporter:

  1. You’ll always wonder if you did enough. I may have interviewed hundreds of people including my list of “must-interview” and stayed longer at an event than I need to, but I’ll still wonder as I’m walking away, “Did I do enough?”
  2. Which brings me to #2…In the words of Kenny Rogers, “you’ve got to know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em, know when to walk away, know when to run.” Whether you are on your upteenth time of editing your manuscript or rereading your query or staying longer than you should at an event you’re covering because of self-doubt, there is a point when you just need to say, “Okay. I’ve done all I can and now I need to let go and see what happens.”
  3. I’m not special. Okay I might be special to my family and to my friends but to the average Joe, a reporter is just a person with a notepad and pen that’s as appealing as a mosquito in a sleeping person’s ear. While some may flock to you because they want their ten minutes of fame, others can’t be bothered. Did you ever hear Five for Fighting’s song Superman? Basically it’s a sob story about how even superheroes have their bad days. Some days being a writer makes me feel like a superhero leaping over harsh criticism and self-doubt and then I’ll ask a question to someone who can’t be bothered and then I’m suddenly back on the ground.
  4. That life happens in mundane things. Sure there are events that are big, profound and life changing. But I’m learning that it’s the anniversaries, festivals and day-to-day activities between people that makes up a life. Those are the stories that remind me life is more than just events, it’s the people and the relationships that are most moving and that can really change one’s life.
  5. When everything else fails, use your intuition. I’m always extra prepared before I enter an interview for a magazine or an event for a newspaper. I’ve been known in fact to bring two tape recorders, a bag full of batteries and pens, just in case. I also write down questions to every possible person I should interview and could meet. Here’s what I learned. Life never happens the way you plan. In the situation where I over-prepared for the interview with several tape recorders and batteries, none actually worked! When I entered a room filled with people, my original questions went unanswered. But that was a good thing. In the first scenario, I used my intuition and focused on my interviewee and stopped worrying about the tape and in the second, I learned to trust my instincts. While I did talk to my primary resources, I also let go of the idea that I needed to interview everybody and instead focused on being in the moment. The result was that I got valuable information from people I had not intended to meet.
  6. Fake it and it will come. As writers, we are often our worst enemy. We sabotage our abilities not because we don’t have them but because of our insecurities. Here’s what I discovered. If you pretend that you are a writer/reporter, no one will know the difference, least of all you. The thing is, we already have the desire, the ability and the skill, what’s lacking usually is our faith. Fake it and with time the confidence will come.
November 11th, 2009

An Inspiring Story: Our Night with Five for Fighting

I’m always amazed by what we can learn in every single moment. Sometimes it’s the most mundane tasks or ones that surprise us because they come when we least expect it. But it just goes to show how every day is a gift and how little we yet know of this world.

Recently, my husband and I have been blessed by a lot of inspiring stories. One of them was an inspiring story that came in the gift of Michael’s Jackson’s movie This Is It. Another came last night when we went to a free concert I won from TheNest. We sat three rows away from the one man band Five for Fighting (John Ondrasik) and feeling moved to tears by his songs, which really capture the human essence and a thread that links these two stories-the ephemerality of life and the importance of love.

One of my favorite songs is “Riddle” which tells the story of a man dealing with his father’s death. His anger over this inevitable loss spawns this heart wrenching question, “Wait, what’s the sense in life?” and his father’s answer, “I guess we’re big and I guess we’re small. If you think about it man you know we got it all. ‘Cause we’re all we got on this bouncing ball. And I love you free, I love you freely…”

Here’s a clip from last night’s inspiring concert: Be inspired!
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