It was made funny by Dana Carvey in SNL’s favorite sketch “Wayne’s World,” but in reality feeling unworthy is anything but funny. Whether it’s money, success or happiness that we’re fearing, why is it that we often deny ourselves what really want out of the fear that we’re unworthy of it?
Oftentimes when I’m hitting the online job ads, I automatically look for qualifications and skills that I don’t have versus what I do. Somehow it’s an easy way for me to eliminate jobs. Yet, even when I find gigs that I’m qualified for I tend to second guess myself. And what’s left? Jobs I’m overqualified for. Sure those are easy to get, but they’re not so fun to maintain. More importantly, they are most likely unchallenging and unworthy of you, your time, skills and energy.
So what’s the antidote to the I’m not worthy syndrome? Take a shot of confidence, a dose of courage and a drop of hope and then take a deep breath and do it anyway. The thing is that even the most successful person you admire didn’t start off that way. Everyone experiences that moment when they doubt who they are and if they can really make it.
The difference between them and us? They took a chance and believed that they could. So the next time you feel insecure, unsure and unworthy, remember this one thing: pretend that you are already the person you’ve always wanted to be. Imagine you are successful, amazing, and totally worthy. Chances are, you already are!
September 21, 2009 at 1:17 am
I’m a big Cheryl Richardson fan too. Her book Stand Up for Your Life changed my m.o. and my life has been steadily getting better ever since! More opportunities to do work I love and more money for doing it. I stumbled upon your blog researching Cheryl’s current web presence. I haven’t created my own blog yet, but I will be soon. I also want to inspire others to live their dreams but I come at it from a Feldenkrais, Improv, EFT perspective.