I don’t know about you, but I’m not perfect. In fact, I’m far from it. You’ll probably see misspellings and grammar errors here and there. And I’ll admit that some of my posts were 100% mistakes on my part.
I’m pretty ecstatic about it.
And nope I’m not a masochist either.
I’ve just learned something important-you may say life changing-about mistakes over the years.
They are good things!
In fact, I’m almost too thrilled when another error has taken place.
For the past week I’ve been fighting a cold. I say fighting because not only was my body fighting germs, but I was fighting with myself (Do nothing and feel guilty vs. Do something and stay sick longer).
In the end, I fought the urge to be productive and succumbed to the highly seductive task of sleeping in, not exercising and reading.
What did I learn?
It was a lot harder to do nothing than it would have been if I had gone to zumba for an hour every day like I normally would. And in the end, I did do a few crafts and exercise a few days last week.
But what I learned was that the most difficult part was shifting my perspective from, “If I don’t do anything, my world will come crumbling down” to trusting that everything was already working fine without me and would continue to do so whether I was working or sleeping.
Instead of working half-butt on my biz with minimal energy, I focused inward on the self-doubt and anxiety that started to arise when I was doing nothing. I meditated, read Martha Beck and stared off in space a lot.
And somewhere in between, I had a sudden feeling of peace and assurance that my business wouldn’t fail if I took a break. That what was lacking in my job search and query writing was faith. I needed to learn how to trust that everything would work out in the end. And that I could really only do so much.
If I was going to get the clients I wanted to work with and the jobs that inspired me, I realized that I needed to start with a relaxed state of mind. Desperation, anxiety and fear were only going to attract negative energy and situations to me. I know because it already had, in the past.
And you know what?
A week has passed. I am no longer sick. I am well-rested, refreshed, optimistic and have a whole slew of potential clients just from this past week.
The best part? I don’t have to worry anymore. Because when I wasn’t looking, the world kept turning and going along just fine, without me.
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It was made funny by Dana Carvey in SNL’s favorite sketch “Wayne’s World,” but in reality feeling unworthy is anything but funny. Whether it’s money, success or happiness that we’re fearing, why is it that we often deny ourselves what really want out of the fear that we’re unworthy of it?
Oftentimes when I’m hitting the online job ads, I automatically look for qualifications and skills that I don’t have versus what I do. Somehow it’s an easy way for me to eliminate jobs. Yet, even when I find gigs that I’m qualified for I tend to second guess myself. And what’s left? Jobs I’m overqualified for. Sure those are easy to get, but they’re not so fun to maintain. More importantly, they are most likely unchallenging and unworthy of you, your time, skills and energy.
So what’s the antidote to the I’m not worthy syndrome? Take a shot of confidence, a dose of courage and a drop of hope and then take a deep breath and do it anyway. The thing is that even the most successful person you admire didn’t start off that way. Everyone experiences that moment when they doubt who they are and if they can really make it.
The difference between them and us? They took a chance and believed that they could. So the next time you feel insecure, unsure and unworthy, remember this one thing: pretend that you are already the person you’ve always wanted to be. Imagine you are successful, amazing, and totally worthy. Chances are, you already are!
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